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If that works for you, that's great! I would like to point out that it carries some risks for people who haven't got a feel for it with their partner yet.

A new day brings new responsibilities, and excuses to avoid returning to the topic. It's an easy way to let resentment build up, especially if you're each carrying on the argument in your heads with a fictional version of your partner.



This is a ridiculous position to take.

You can't simply resolve all kinds of arguments and disagreements before going to bed. Sure, if you have a minor disagreements you might be able to make amends but other issues will take time to be processed and discussed at a more opportune time.

More to it, one might be tempted to quickly attempt to solve the issue with this line of thinking but failing to address the root cause, thus ending up even causing more damage later on as recurring disagreements appear.

Emotions aren't binary.


I find the phrase "If that works for you, that's great!" to be so utterly condescending. Your argument itself is reasonable and interesting, but that phrase shuts my brain right off.


I can't figure out if you're ashamed of this part of your personality or bragging about it.


Maybe it's just a warning that some people find the phrase off putting, regardless of the intent of the speaker




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